Trouble Making Friends

Trouble Making Friends

Do you struggle to make friends? This isn’t something you simply have to accept – there are practical steps you can take to form friendships.

The 5-Point Friendship Plan
Some people make friends effortlessly. This isn’t because they’re any nicer or better than those who don’t – it’s because they know how to make conversation. If you feel like you never know what to say, this is for you.

1. Talk to everyone
Next time you buy something, make eye contact with the cashier and say, “Thanks, have a good day”. In the next shop, say something about what you’re buying, like “I’ve wanted this top for ages!” What you say doesn’t have to be original, it just has to be something! Practice really does make perfect, so try to say something to everyone you meet. This will build your confidence in social situations and allow people to see your personality.

2. Use body language
It’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it. If you seem approachable, friendly and relaxed, people will want to talk to you. How to do this? Make eye-contact and smile.

3. Choose your friends wisely
At school, there are cliques and tribes and everyone’s apparently supposed to know their place… but there will also be people who don’t fit in (or don’t want to fit in) who are friendly and won’t judge you. These are the people to turn to and often make the best friends anyway. It’s not that you need to make friends with people for the sake of it, but you don’t know what people are really like until you get to know them.

4. Be a good listener
You don’t have to be fascinating/beautiful/hilarious for people to want to talk to you. Listen to what people say, remember their names and their likes and dislikes and just take the time to learn more about them. Always having a better story than anyone else is a one-way ticket to seeming insecure and self-obsessed.

5. Have the courage of your convictions
Don’t say things you don’t believe to make people like you. It won’t work and you’ll seem desperate. Instead, believe in the value of your own opinions and don’t apologise for them. If someone says they hate a band you love, saying, “Really! I love their latest album” is better than, “I really like them, but then I’ve got bad taste”. When you like yourself, others will like you too and respect you for having an opinion.




Do what you like 
You don’t even have to be super good in it and it doesn’t have to be something trendy or whatever. If you like it then do it because that will put you in a better mood which makes it easier to think positive and others will notice that as well.

Don’t compare yourself to others

Oh man. She is thinner, he has better grades and she has the “perfect” boyfriend you always wanted. And now? What does it change in your life? Nothing. Comparing yourself is useless and depressing so stop doing it. You can go in small steps but always remember that everyone has their mistakes and good sides. You do too, they may only differ.

Be grateful 

Always keep in your mind what you are grateful for. You may as well write it down. It can be simple things like your family, friends or even that you have clean water and food every day. All these things aren’t natural, not everyone has them, remember that and be grateful.

Spend time with people you like

Family and friends are the most important things to stay positive since we love them and enjoy the time we spend with them. So basically do that and you’ll already have more positivity in your life.

Collect compliments you get.

Literally. Take pieces of paper and a jar or a journal were you can write down every compliment you get. Maybe someone liked your hair or outfit today? Write it down. And if you feel insecure or depressed read through them and you’ll feel better instantly. Also if you feel okay do so once in a while because it will give you strength and optimism.

Have a journal 

This is useful for two reasons. First you can write down all your thoughts to free your mind. 
Second you can write down what you liked about the day every night. This will reflect all the positive things that happened this day and you can read through them whenever you like to always remember that in general you live a good life.

Positivity can come.